To Give Life Your Best Yes, Seek Wisdom

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Journey back a few weeks with me when I wrote about this topic of learning to say no so that you can give your best yes.  This idea of the Best Yes comes from a book I read by Lysa TurKest.  Last month, I was all set to start a new series and then one day my little engine said to me, “I can no longer move forward.” It stopped. Screech! Out of gas.  I was in need of some time for rest, reflection and rejuvenation.  After a week off and some thoughtful planning, here we go with the five day challenge of how do we give life our best yes.  Forgot post, check it out here ====>>>> Be Still

Day One Reflection:

Imagine going through life without knowing how to navigate your circumstances; without knowing how to be financially savvy; without knowing right from wrong.  You pretty much know how that would look.  A lot of what we decide comes from knowledge and experience.  When it comes to making decisions, we have to be wise.  Wisdom is defined as “the quality of having experience, knowledge and good judgement” (  We can all admit that there are times when we don’t make wise decisions.

I remember I paid my car off, was six months in my new house, and was making good money as an educator.  In previous years, I helped with the after school program and was told that I would be over the program in the upcoming school year. In my mind, I calculated extra money means I can go buy the car I’ve been eyeing for a few months now.  And I did just that.  I bought a new car. Lo and behold, new administration came in the building and decided to use the old program coordinator, and that meant no extra money for me.  Needless to say, I struggled a few months after buying the car.  I knew that was not a wise decision.  I was quick to satisfy my wants at the time and not my needs.

What does this all mean you may be asking.  Sometimes we cannot give our best yes to the right things because we lack wisdom in saying no.  When we give in to our wants, give in to our fleshly desires, give in to others, we leave no room for what really should be taking place in our lives.  Maybe like me, you made a bad financial decision or maybe you’ve taken on too many tasks and you’re overwhelmed.  It happens to us all.

Let’s think about what would happen if we were wise in our decision-making.  The bible tells us in Psalm 111:10 the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.  The fear here is not talking about being afraid or scared but it is about reverence and honoring God.  When we reverence and honor Him, we know that we cannot do anything without him.  That means we cannot and should not make decisions without Him.  We’ve tried many times in our life to do things on our own, without seeking God and end up crawling right back to Him for direction.  Hello, that’s why Proverbs tells us to trust in the Lord with ALL of our heart and do not lean on your understanding.  Doing things your way?  Tell me how that’s working out for you.  In my car situation, it didn’t work out too good.

“When we have a reverential attitude and look for the hand of God in everything, we start seeing things from the perspective of wisdom.”

The Best Yes Study Guide

So how should we go about getting wisdom and getting better at making wise decisions?  First things first, honor and reverence God at all times.  Acknowledge Him in everything.

  1. Read God’s word.  Make it a habit to dive in the Word consistently.  C  Sometimes we are so busy doing other things or managing our daily lives, that our study time is not a priority.  Let’s all do better (if we are not already) and make it a priority this week.
  2. Apply God’s word.  When the word of God tells us how to forgive, let’s give it a shot.  Forgiveness is huge in our faith walk.  When the word shows us how to increase our faith, let’s give it shot.  Faith is important in our daily journey.  Where the word tells us to show love, let’s do that.  Loving others can be hard at times but your love for someone could be the very thing that leads them to Christ.
  3. Look to God. The scriptures give us direct insight to Christ and how to live.  When we don’t have an answer, ask God wisdom and understanding.  God’s word promises to give us what we need.
  4. Cry out to God. Pray out loud to God and ask Him for what you need.  Ask Him for instruction.  Ask Him for insight.  Ask for guidance.  And when you ask, believe with your whole heart that He will answer your prayer.

In life we have choices.  We can choose to honor God daily, even in our decisions.  For every situation we face, there is an answer.  Think about a situation you may be facing.  Ask yourself ‘what does the Word of God say about my situation?’ Find a scripture and pray the Word over your situation.  Continue to seek wisdom so that you can give life your best yes!

Stay tuned for Day Two Reflection: The Powerful No

What areas of life have you made unwise decisions? How did you overcome? Comment. Like. Share.

Remember, its a faith journey y’all!

Tamika W.


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